Not to long ago I had a friend of mine ask me how do you know when you're in love, I had to sit there and think about it. After about 45 seconds of silence I replied back with this, "you know you're in love when he/she makes you wanna be better". When I said that, I wasn't saying that he or I wasn't a good person or that we were sub par in any way, but love has a way of making people want to grow. My friend mentioned to me that he recently met a young lady and that for the first time in his life he found himself trying to go that extra mile. With that said, I believe it is very easy to think you're in love at the very beginning. Everything is new and fresh, nothing is tainted but the fact still remains that you are simply meeting and greeting with love. Love hasn't decided if its going to stick around and rent a room or if it plans on building a house on that empty lot called your heart. Some people describe love as a funny feeling, while others describe it as a drug or some type of high, me personally, I think love is more of a functional dis-function or condition if you will. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know functional dis-function is an oxymoron but read on. Love can make you do some crazy things to prove your love for another person, no matter how sane you believe yourself to be... love is insane, but this still doesn't mean you're in love, because love could be playing a cruel joke on you.
I want you to take a minute and think...name a condition other than love that can make you feel rage, pain, sorrow,attraction, hate, or bliss. This love thing will literally make you sick to your stomach or can even bring you back from the brink of death, but how do we know when we truly love some one? Should we have the feeling of "I would die for that person" or "I would kill for that person" or "I can't live without that person"? Love is a mental condition that can make you fell all those, which can be classified as borderline psychosis. The truth is love will open your eyes to things you have never felt before but be careful not to mistake lust with real love. Many times we as people think its okay to call lust love when we truly know that it's not, that doesn't make you a bad person, just a person who might be in a place of comfort. Whatever the case may be love will find you and you'll never have to question if you're in love or not. So to answer my friends question, you'll know you're in love when you don't have to ask yourself if you're in love.
It's such a difficult or perhaps intricate topic because everyone has their own definition of love. Sometimes when you're going through your relationship you thinks its love, but then look back later and decide that it wasn't. I think that if you can look back on past relationships, being years or even months removed, and still are convinced that it is love, then it probably is. I hate to say it, but many females sometimes think every guy they come across is the one, so they end up with everyone having a piece of their hearts. This was never God's design. All I can say is, whatever you do, make sure you grow spiritually together with person. I do agree, love makes you want to be better person. Love makes want to go that extra mile and put others before you.
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